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AW: virus: admission
« on: 2004-11-20 16:26:48 » |
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Greetings Sebby,
like Casey (and apparently Joe, too), I would probably start at whether or
not you are yourself satisfied with your "dreamy" outlook on life. In case
you are - say, you actually deal with Western civilisation's demands well
enough (i.e., can make your living in it) and just prefer to spend the rest
of the day "dreaming" -, I suppose the relationship is still very good,
isn't it? After all, you have other people to talk to, and "relationship"
doesn't imply sharing every thought or interest. As long as you do share
SOME interests, have comparable moral standards and - maybe an important,
but maybe overrated indicator - have a healthy sex life, that, err,
sufficient, is it not?
On the other hand, if Laura's practical orientation is a source of
unhappiness for you because, say, it reminds you of your own shortcomings
(such as, well, she would have applied to this and that a long time ago and
I still can't get going), or because - by some psychologically twisted
comparison - her happiness get's in the way of yours, the matter is
different (one of the reasons I broke up with my girlfriend recently, or
recently it seems...).
Does she ever complain about your dreaminess? Of your abstract thinking,
instead of staying on the ground? Of escapism? Does she ever complain about,
or does it ever occur to you, that you are not enough in touch with
yourself? (nb, I am not implying you are, for I do not know you at all - nor
her, nor the context; actually, nothing...)
Did you ever talk about this?
Sorry, but I guess I can't really help...
Nevertheless best regards
Björn
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von Dr Sebby
Gesendet: Samstag, 20. November 2004 14:17
An: virus@lucifer.com
Betreff: virus: admission
....alright, dont skin me alive for saying this, but i suspect i am in a
relationship problem. this is about the only place i feel free to disclose
such personal crap...the virian confessional chamber. here is the
situation: laura(snoopy) is a very nice girl, very kind, caring, loving,
gorgeous, affectionate, sexual(few b.j.'s but that's not too much of an
oddity amongst women in this country), attentive, playful, trustworthy(a big
quality let's admit)and devoted. she's 5'3" and 100 lbs...sounds like a
perfect woman right? well how can i say this then without sounding like a
bastard?...i have become increasingly aware of the fact that she and i have
very different outlooks on life. both her parents were struggling
immigrants who succeeded in raising 5 daughters in brooklyn NY...hats off to
them for that...and they are still together after all these years. but as a
result, i sometimes feel that she and i have very different takes on life in
general. she seems to focus exclusively on immediate concerns and the nuts
and bolts of living....to the extent that it is nearly impossible for me to
have an interesting conversation with her...she is interested in talking
about immediate issues...from important things like bills and such to other
issues like, "that person knows this person, who knows this friend of my
friend"...or "it's really warm out today"...or "this person said this about
this person"...all of these unknowns being people or things which we arent
connected with at all. i, on the other hand tend to live in the more
dreamy side of life...i like to b.s. about politics, philosophy,
interpretive analysis of history(recent and present) and any variety of
'what if' situations...all of which are likely useless in a real sense, but
i love them. as a result, i am becoming increasingly bored of our
combination...and i'm really not sure what to do. is this an insurmountable
problem? if we could pick and choose the qualities in a mate that we would
like to marry, i would pull about 80% of her...but the remaining 20% is a
big one...intellectual compatibility. what does the virus engine think?
advice?
DrSebby.
"Courage...and shuffle the cards".
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