From: Dr Sebby (drsebby@hotmail.com)
Date: Sat Jan 31 2004 - 23:46:33 MST
...i have always felt that unhappiness is acheived, and happiness is more or
less the result of failing to acheive unhappiness. this sounds like a joke
but it is not. 'happiness' seems to arise from a state of empowerment and
accountability. two words that each frame very complex ideas. i shall put
them in sebby terms:
empowerment: the real capacity to make adjustments to ones life...not just
saying that it IS possible, but the resolve to actually do it. this usually
requires a certain degree of courage and a lessening of covetous notions in
my opinion...things we should work hard towards every day.
accountability: once we accept our role in the results life offers us, we
can no longer blame others...without blame, we become hopeful and
optimistic(a human instinct) due to the realization that we have much more
control over our lives than we are typically led to believe. once we cannot
blame, we have only ourselves to deal with; the one person we CAN actually
control.
...it always seems that unhappiness nearly always comes from getting oneself
stuck between two necessities that conflict with each other. things that we
"must" do to feel that we are good or approved of, or righteous...and things
that we "need" to satisfy our ambitions, goals and desires in life. if we
can hold others as accountable as we hold ourselves, things simplify to a
great extent, and the typical self-sacrifice that ruins our hopes and dreams
may be avoided. the only catch in this is that to properly manage it
without being a scoundrel, we cannot mislead others with regards to our
intents.
DrSebby.
"Courage...and shuffle the cards".
----Original Message Follows----
From: "Erik Aronesty" <erik@zoneedit.com>
Reply-To: virus@lucifer.com
To: virus@lucifer.com
Subject: Re: virus: What's your law?
Date: Sun, 1 Feb 2004 02:04:49 -0400
I read a new scientist article on happiness.
I admit that there may be a genetic component to being inclined to
happiness.
I know from my experience that profoundly and chronically unhappy people can
become happy... and sustainably so...in one instant of personal decision and
without any major life changes.
All you need to be happy is to reverse the have-do-be life philosophy...
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