From: Blunderov (squooker@mweb.co.za)
Date: Thu Dec 18 2003 - 04:56:23 MST
> -----Original Message-----
> From: owner-virus@lucifer.com [mailto:owner-virus@lucifer.com] On
Behalf
> Of Dr Sebby
> Sent: 18 December 2003 1044
> To: virus@lucifer.com
> Subject: virus: sebby's g/f betrays him!!!
>
>
> ...listen to this; sebby plans big adventure north including visit at
> monteray aquarium, passing through S.F. and seeing the redwoods.
followed
> up by visiting my mother and sister and family in the san juan
> islands...plenty of shopping and boating etc... and she sidelines me
for
> 2
> or 3 days(a critical amount of time) so she can appease the request of
her
> nephew - to go with her to see some stupid nutcracker performance!!!!
ok,
> the kids mom(her sis) died a year ago and he's 8...but truly he seems
to
> care more about video games and his friends than musicals. in the
past 10
> months he and she have gone out of their way to see each other exactly
> zero
> times....including turning down 2 of her invitations to visit us here
> because he was with friends or some such crap. these plans of mine
are so
> massive that i am truly truly truly offended and pissed off. im
seriously
> considering...sort of already done...breaking up over the matter. i
mean
> what if i had kidney surgery planned?....would she cancel on me to go
> watch
> a lakers game on tele with the kid? i cant handle this degree of
> 'sidelining'. am i wrong? i dont think so, but if someone does, pray
> tell.
[Blunderov]
Possibly there is some other underlying issue?
In my experience, one of the aspects of a brand new relationship is that
psychological barriers are lowered in order to facilitate the union, but
as the relationship matures some of them are sometimes re-erected in
order to re-assert a separate identity.
One of the wisest things I have ever read in this regard was by a famous
British divorce lawyer who said that REAL trouble in a relationship
occurs when the less dominant partner feels compelled to re-assert their
own identity. It may be that something of the sort is occurring in your
relationship?
I hope your problem is resolvable - good partners are hard to come by.
Best Regards
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